Light a candle

This morning at church we had an incredible service. It was dedicated to parents who have experienced loss of a child. There where some parents who spoke and told a bit of their story. I was absolutely crushed.

I never know what to say to people who have lost someone they love. I usually don't say anything. I always think of how stupid and pointless my words would be to someone who is grieving. I also think of what I would want to hear, what would help me if I was in that state? I have no idea. I guess I wouldn't want people to stay silent and then I wouldn't want to hear "It's going to be alright" either.

I have a great respect for those who have lived through death. I have not experienced much of it myself.

I have 4 older sisters and we all have children. One of my sisters lost her child by miscarriage a few years ago just before Trinity was born. I mourned the lost of that child, that niece or nephew my kids will never get to play with on this earth. We gave Trinity 3 names, Trinity scarlet Mystery Hayes. The Mystery is in honor of that lost child so that we would never forget, and we won't.